I got married to my best friend 12 days ago. I am now Mrs. Roberts. I have a husband. I am a wife. It’s so strange… but so wonderful. I’m a total newbie to marriage, but so far I love it!
The weeks leading up to our wedding day were fun… dress shopping, Pinterest-ing more than ever, planning our honeymoon, getting crafty… but they were also stressful.The world likes to tell us that engagement is the “best time of your life!” etcetera, etcetera. But for me, that wasn’t always true.
The world tells us a lot of things. It tells brides what our weddings should be and how we should look. The world has set a standard for us, and it’s pretty tough not to fall into the traps of comparison while we plan and then have our special day.
- Party planning may not be your thing. If you don’t absolutely love wedding planning, you aren’t crazy and nothing is wrong with you.
- Take time to make others feel loved during your planning process and at your wedding.
- It doesn’t matter where you get married. The whole point is that you are getting married. No matter where you are, it will be beautiful.
- You do not have to be at your ideal weight to be a beautiful bride. This one was hard for me to grasp! Your husband will think you are beautiful, because you are the woman he has chosen to marry. Don’t listen to the lies that you aren’t enough!
- You don’t have to get your dress at an upscale boutique in order to love it… and you shouldn’t be ashamed of that.
- Not everything will go perfectly on your wedding day. It’s ok! Take a chill pill and laugh about it with your bridesmaids.
- Sometimes your “honeymoon pedicure” (I’m talking bright neon orange here) will unexpectedly show through your burgundy wedding shoes. But you know what? No one cares.
- A button on your dress might pop off right before you walk down the aisle. But hey, as long as your dress stays put, you’re good to go.
- Take time to dance with your besties.
- You may not see your husband a lot at your reception. Soak in all of the people who are there to celebrate with you, and remember that you get a vacation with your favorite man in a few hours.
- When walking down the aisle take a look at all the faces smiling at you. I felt overwhelmingly loved in that moment!
- When you notice a little hiccup in your day, or get stressed about getting pictures done in time, or find out one of your groomsmen’s pants don’t fit, take a few moments to refocus. Yes, you want your day to be lovely, but all in all, it’s about so much more. It’s about Jesus uniting you and your husband in a way we can’t comprehend. It’s about bringing glory to your Creator and thanking Him for His good gifts. Everything else is fun, but don’t let it become your focus.
Future brides, don’t fall into the traps of having the most “perfect” wedding possible. In the end, your day will be perfect because you will be marrying the man of your dreams with all of your favorite people surrounding you!
Focus on the beauty of marriage, and let the other standards fall away.
Ladies, what lessons did you learn in your wedding planning process?