As we enter into week 34 of pregnancy, I can whole-heartedly say that it has been a journey of both awe and confusion. Pregnancy is truly remarkable… never before have I been so convinced that we have a perfect Creator who has designed our bodies to do something absolutely amazing. At the same time, I have been confused, grossed out, and plainly surprised at what making a baby can do to your body and emotions.
A large number of my friends are already mamas, so I’ve heard tons of stories and felt semi-knowledgable about pregnancy before actually getting pregnant. Even so, there have been quite a few surprises for me and I credit that to the fact that every pregnancy is super different and there are some topics that are just awkward to talk about.
SO, I wanted to share some of my surprises here, because if you are going through the same thing, I want you to know you aren’t alone! Plus, I want to remember these things down the road when pregnancy is a thing of the past.
Some of these may be TMI, so read at your own risk! But here we go…
I didn’t feel connected to my baby until I felt him move.
I was a bag of mixed emotions my first trimester and struggled with a lot of fears of losing my baby. This created an emotional barrier between us, and I remember struggling to feel connected to him even after seeing him in our first sonogram. It wasn’t until I felt him move at around 17 weeks that I truly felt like a mama. I wasn’t expecting that!
Having a “healthy” pregnancy isn’t easy.
In the past, I had always told myself that I couldn’t wait to have a healthy pregnancy so that I could be the best mama for my little babe. I had every intention to workout the whole time, eat healthy, etc. This all sounded great until my food aversions kicked in and just the thought of vegetables and chicken made me want to gag. I had a lot of nausea my first trimester which made exercise one of the last things on my to-do list. Basically, I made up every excuse in the book to indulge in carbs and watch Netflix over being active. Things have gotten much better with time and as my aversions have gone away, but it’s still a daily battle!
All the discharge.
Before I did some research, I got freaked out by the amount of discharge that happens… down there… during pregnancy. At first I thought something was wrong with me, but after some research I learned this is totally normal and healthy. It’s not a fun side effect, but it’s super common and I’m thankful my body knows what it’s doing!
Battling negative body image.
I’ve always thought pregnant women are so beautiful, but I’ve learned that having that image of your own body while you’re gaining weight and seeing changes is a challenge. I believe what my body is doing is absolutely beautiful, but I don’t always feel that way when I look in the mirror. Praise God for a husband who tries to debunk these thoughts as much as possible!
The bra situation.
One of the first side effects I saw were my boobs getting huge. In fact, that’s how one of my friends knew I was pregnant! haha. This has been frustrating for me because finding bras that aren’t super pricey but make you feel comfortable has been a pain in the butt. I still haven’t found one that I’m completely sold on, so if you have any suggestions for a larger-chested gal please let me know!
The time is flying by.
Nine months sounds like such a long time! I always figured the time would drag by, but it has flown. I can only imagine how fast it’ll go once he’s actually here!
Oh hey there constipation and hemorrhoids.
I already struggle with constipation, so that has only been exemplified with everything else going on in that region. And as of 31 weeks, I have officially experienced my first hemorrhoids due to the extra pressure from said constipation and my uterus. I had no clue this happened! Apparently it’s going to get worse before it gets better, so that’s fun!
Brady bonding with his son.
I wasn’t sure how well Brady would be able to connect with our son since he’s not carrying him, but it’s been so cool to see the two of them bond. Brady loves talking to him and feeling him kick and prays for him often. I love it! I can tell our little guy recognizes his voice and will be active when he hears dad after a day when I’ve been at work. I don’t know how scientifically sound that is, but I like to think he’s saying hi to his dad. 🙂
Literally since week 4, I’ve woken up every day with a super runny nose. It typically goes away throughout the day, but never ceases to be back the next morning!
The mom community.
I’ve been overwhelmed by the community we’ve gotten to experience throughout pregnancy. From mom friends who give me advice, tell me what I’m going to need, and convince me that I’m not going crazy to the community who has gone above and beyond to help us with physical needs, we have been blessed. It is so reassuring to know we aren’t in this alone and that help will always be right around the corner.
All the nerves.
Here I am talking about literal nerves, haha. Around week 12 the top half of my left thigh went numb and I haven’t felt it since! It is so strange. That along with sciatic nerve pain and random pains in my abdomen have taught me so much about how everything in our body is connected! Most of the times I look up a new pain or weird feeling, it has to do with baby pushing on one nerve or another.
The female body is incredible.
Pregnancy has only grown my appreciation and awe for the Lord as our Creator. He literally thought of every detail when it comes to forming a human within a womb, and all I’ve had to do is live life and let it happen. I’ve been fascinated as I read what is developing each week… from my immune system decreasing in order for my body not to attack the baby to our little guy growing peach fuzz all over his body to keep him warm before fattening up… no single detail has gone unnoticed. Praise God!
Were you able to relate to any of these? Let me know! Or if you had a different unexpected side effect, I’d love to hear what it was. Overall, I’m so thankful to be experiencing this gift and it’s getting harder and harder to be patient for little man’s arrival. Only 6 more weeks!!!