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Who doesn’t love scrolling through Pinterest, looking at picture-perfect bathrooms or kitchens or bedrooms, and dreaming up your dream home?!

I definitely fall in this category! I love taking a look into different decorating styles and then pretending I’m Joanna Gaines as I try and incorporate them into my own home. I have a house tour coming at you, but it may not be what you typically see as you scroll Instagram and Pinterest!

Brady and I bought our first house and moved in on August 28th, 2016. We were so incredibly blessed to move into a flip house that was painted exactly as we would’ve wanted it. Because of this, we got to move in right away and start making this little house into the first Roberts home!

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We prayed and prayed about where God wanted us to be, and as we made offers and went through the process of closing on this baby it became so clear to us that this is where we were meant to be. We are minutes away from where our church meets, and smack dab in the middle of our ministry zone. We love where we are, who we get to host, who we are neighbors to, and the plans God has for this home and our family.

As I share a tour with you, I want you to see this structure as a home and not as a Pinterest-worthy house. I was so tempted to go through, deep clean, and clean up every nook and cranny before taking these pictures. But then I thought… ummm our house never looks like that.

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The reason why I love these spaces so much is because of the life we get to live in them. So come, take a tour, and enjoy the space God is allowing Brady and I to live in!

The Living Room

Why I love this space: Brady and I spend the majority of our time in here and it’s the first thing you see when you step inside the front door. I love this space so much because it’s the place people gather for our weekly huddles. It’s where we sit and chat with our friends who come over for dinner. It’s where we have dance parties with our little nieces. It’s where I spend time with Jesus in the mornings. Basically, it’s where we do the most life and we love it.

The Kitchen

Why I love this space: The kitchen has been our trickiest area. It’s a small, awkward space, but our recent breakfast nook purchase has made all the difference! I love to cook a good meal in here! I also love this space because it’s where Brady spends time with Jesus in the mornings, it’s where the coffee is made, and the sun never stops streaming through those windows.

The Office

Why I love this space: This room is sunny and has a great closet. It’s always refreshing to step in this room! It has our “culture wall”, representing our love for travel and the nations. It also serves partly as a church office, which right now represents where we are at in church planting. The cluttered corner is temporary, so I’m trying to enjoy it and the stage of our journey it represents.

The Bathrooms

Why I love this space: It seems weird to feature bathrooms, haha, but they are obviously super important! I love that we found a house with more than one (very rare for this area) and they have been beautifully redone. I love a nice, relaxing bath, and having a pretty tub makes it even better!

The Mudroom

Why I love this space: When we started looking for a house, I never imagined we would find one with a bonus mud room! It holds an extra bathroom (another bonus!), a sink area, and a perfect laundry space. These things seem simple, but Brady and I lived without a washer and dryer for the first 9 months of marriage, so having one in our home feels like an extra huge blessing.

The Bedroom

Why I love this space: Our bedroom is cozy and simple, right off the mudroom. I love that it’s homey, that Brady is cool with decorative pillows, and that it holds special pieces from our wedding day. We love snuggling into a cozy bed after a long day, and this space has been perfect for that.

The Junk Room

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Why I love this space: Guys, I can’t believe I’m putting up a picture of this, lol. So basically, once we bought a home, my parents had me take ALL of my stuff that was still stored at their house. I was picturing a few boxes when we went to pick it up, but somehow it was this huge amount of mess. All of my books, crafting supplies, college notebooks and projects… all waiting for me to sift through and sort into donation and trash piles. The door to this room is almost always closed. Out of sight, out of mind, right?! Basically, I’ve deemed this as my spring break project and will tackle it soon! I’m excited to have it all out of here though, because we would love this to be a guest room for our friends and family! Although it isn’t much yet, I love this space because it will allow us to host more and it’s such a bonus to have a 3rd bedroom.

Outside

Why I love this space: The front porch. I love this trend from the 1920s and it’s such a dream to sit out here when the weather is beautiful! That porch swing was a surprise birthday gift from my parents and is literally one of my favorite things ever. Our backyard is more than we could have asked for as well! We have a great little patio area, a garage and shed, and plenty of room to host friends around our gifted fire pit. I can’t wait to use this space more as the weather warms up! I have plans to make it pretty with patio lights and maybe some furniture someday!

Thanks for taking a tour of our home! Our homes are beautiful because of the life we get to do in them. The memories that are made. The stories that are shared. The relaxing that is done. They are beautiful because they show God’s provision and help tell about the journey He has each of us on. Now you just need to come over for a cup of coffee! Any takers?!

I’d love to hear… what is your favorite space in your home?!

Lifestyle

Making 2018 Count

My inner-nerd REALLY loves the feeling of having a new year ahead. It’s funny how suddenly needing to write an 8 instead of a 7 for the date brings on feelings of excitement and hope for the days ahead.

I have mixed feelings about New Year’s Resolutions because I’ve personally been lousy about remembering what mine even are by the time it gets to February. BUT the fact that we are making goals to become better versions of ourselves? I’m all for that.

This year I tried to make mine more meaningful than ever before, deciding to look at them as Growth Goals. I thought of 5 areas of my life that I’d really love to see growth in, and I will try as hard as I can to focus on them all the way to December. And when I say growth, I mean growing more like Christ, which should probably be our goal every single day of every single year.


2018 Growth Goals

1.    Redefine my relationship with food and my body.

This one almost feels like a broken record for me, but if I allow God to conquer this area of my life, I will be so incredibly pleased and thankful. I have struggled with this for as long as I can remember, and I believe God is wanting to rewrite my views when it comes to how I see food and my body. I try to take control of this CONSTANTLY and I’m exhausted from it! I will be focusing on self-control, making healthy decisions, and glorifying the Lord through these avenues. I’m not focusing on weight here… I’ve focused on that far too long and the results have been minimal and unsatisfying. This goal has a deeper purpose for me, and I can’t wait to watch God work through it.

  • So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
  • But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23

2.    Blog once a month.

This one is pretty simple. Blogging is something God has put on my heart for a long time now and I truly love getting to share the work He is doing in my life with the rest of the world. Once a month is not a very lofty goal, but I figured I’d set it small so that anything extra feels like a huge accomplishment. 😉

  • Just as each of you has received a gift, use it to serve others, as good stewards of the varied grace of God. 1 Peter 4:10

3.    Declutter my life. 

Can I get real honest and just say that I love living in excess? I love going shopping and buying new clothes and decorations and shoes and whatever else was “such a great deal!” (as I like to tell my husband) and I have recently been convicted on the amount of stuff I have. I’m not positive on the specifics of this one yet, other than decluttering my closet and only keeping a certain number of pieces and then going through our boxes and getting rid of everything we don’t need right now. My goal is to live with the mentality that less is more, and to let Jesus prove to me that He is all I need.

  • Don’t store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves don’t break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:19-21

4.    Spend less time on my phone.

I’m kind of embarrassed that this is one of the top things I feel I need to work on in my life. I am a person who love being on social media, and I also love playing mindless games as much as a junior high boy. I haven’t found a scripture that directly applies to this yet, but I feel like I will be a better wife, sister, daughter, and friend if I learn to put my phone down and enjoy the people who are physically sitting around me. I am going to commit to social-media-free weekends and we will see where to go on from there!

5.    Pay off all student loans.

It’s pretty exciting to type that sentence, because paying off these loans is a REAL possibility this year! This would mean Brady and I would be debt free besides our mortgage. It’s possible, but we will have to work hard at it all year long. We can’t wait to celebrate after that last loan payment!

  • Pay your obligations to everyone: taxes to those you owe taxes, tolls to those you owe tolls, respect to those you owe respect, and honor to those you owe honor. Do not owe anyone anything, except to love one another, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. Romans 13:7-8

 

Well, if you made it to the end of this wordy post, thank you! I pray this is a year where God grows you and I in ways that go beyond our desires.

I’d love to hear and cheer you on… what are some growth goals you have?

 

Lifestyle

Life as of Late

Guys… Brady and I are coming up on our 11 month anniversary and when I look back, I can’t believe all that has happened in our short marriage. This past almost-year has been one of the most challenging, blessed, busy, and growth-filled times of my life. There have been days where I’ve thought “I never want to do (fill in the blank) ever again,” but looking back now, I have so much thankfulness for the path God has my wonderful husband and I on.

Pretty much everything in our lives has changed in one way or another since we got married. Brady moved to a different state the week before our wedding, worked part-time on a sod farm for a few months, and has fully embraced his new role as a church-planting Community Pastor at The District Church. Oh, and there’s the whole having-a-wife-and-trying-to-figure-out-how-she-feels-when-she-can’t-even-answer-that-question-herself thing. Haha. But seriously… Brady has entered a whole new life since moving from Carthage and has handled it with so much grace. He has adapted to Wichita in a better way than we could ever have hoped. Praise God for that!

As for myself, changes include being married, ending my health coaching business, entering the teaching world again while also working as our church’s administrator, leaving the church I grew up in, buying our first home and moving to a new part of Wichita, and learning what it looks like to have a husband in full-time ministry.

Honestly, this past year has been hard. I am a planner to the core and love to know what’s coming next, and we have had very little of that through this church-planting journey. Time and time again we’ve been creating brand new things to reach our community, getting ourselves and our team completely out of our comfort zones. As you know, exiting your comfort zone is hard. Brady and I are learning how to serve together as a couple, while also learning how to serve one another along the way. Making adjustments is hard. Making the decision to buy a house and move in the midst of craziness is hard. Trusting God through many unknowns is HARD. Yea?

BUT praise God, because He is so incredibly faithful and His blessings are always right around every corner. With change comes growth. Brady and I have already grown so much in our marriage (with lots more growth to go!). This little baby church is growing and its impact within our community is growing. Making big decisions and then seeing God use and bless them is so beautiful. And when we learn that we can trust God with the little things in our lives, the more willing we are to put the big things in His hands.

I have missed blogging so much over these past months, and I sense God asking me to pick it back up as our journey continues. I love processing here and pondering on how God is moving, and I pray the lessons He puts in my life can be an encouragement to you.

Questions For You: How is God working in your life right now? How is He bringing beauty through the hardships?

 

 

 

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Are You Coping Well?

Hello friends! It has been awhile (more on that in a sec), but it feels so good to be writing again! I don’t know how July is already halfway over, but I hope you all have been able to soak in the season with family time and some relaxation, preferably next to some sort of body of water!

So why have I not written for a couple of months? If you remember my post called You’re Not on the Struggle Bus Alone, you know I was going through a time of overwhelm and transition. With that transition, I felt pretty depleted and out of words, and since then I’ve had a hard time jumping back into the blog and knowing where to start.

I have prayed a lot about this and God has shown me that I’m probably not alone when it comes to this overwhelming season of life. The season of life where things are changing, whether they are bad or good, and you need help walking through it all. I decided to go and see a counselor a few times after a couple of friends suggested it, and it helped SO much! I was nervous because I’m an awkward person (especially when I just have to talk about my life, ha), but it ended up being a great experience.

The words my counselor kept saying to me were I wasn’t dumb, the things I was experiencing were normal, and I wasn’t the only one who had felt overwhelmed through transition. So if anything from this post resonates with you, let’s chat a little bit about how I learned to cope. And not just cope, but cope well.

How to Cope Well with Overwhelm and Transition

One of the first assignments my counselor gave me was to make a list of the different ways I cope with stress, being overwhelmed, etc. I thought I already knew the ways I like to cope, but making a list was so helpful. I was doing certain things that I never would have categorized as “coping,” yet they were ways I was trying to minimize stress. Ready for my list?

  1. Binge eating
  2. Mindless activities (watching TV, being on my phone/social media, Netflix)
  3. Aimlessly walking around Target
  4. Blasting music while driving
  5. Journaling/Praying
  6. Going on walks
  7. Crafts (painting, crochet, hand-lettering)
  8. Taking baths with a lit candle and music
  9. Working Out

Do you relate to any of those? I mean, I can’t be the only Target wanderer out there. 😉

So once I had made my list, the next week at counseling we talked through it, she told me that I wasn’t weird (praise hands), and then we discussed which methods were healthy and which methods needed to be removed.

  • Healthy: going on walks, journaling, music, crafts, baths, working out
  • Needed to be Removed: binge eating, aimless shopping, mindless activities (the frequency and amount of time spent)

This little drill seems simple and obvious, but I’m so thankful I was challenged to do it and that I can now be proactive in times to come. Brady and I are entering another phase of transition with new jobs for the both of us, our church launching, and buying a house, and it’s comforting to know that I can use my healthy coping activities to help manage the stress and overwhelm.

So, my friend, if you are in a season of transition and overwhelm or are entering one soon (even if it’s because of GOOD things!), I challenge you to make the same list I did. Keep notes in your phone of the things you do when you feel stressed, and then decide to remove the strategies that aren’t beneficial and perform the coping strategies that are healthy. You aren’t alone, and I pray this is helpful!

Question: What coping strategies are you going to focus on in the future?

 

 

 

Lifestyle

Mother’s Day Gift Guide 2017

Happy Friday, everyone! I hope you are wrapping up a great week and have lots to look forward to this weekend. We don’t have much on the calendar, so I’m pumped about that!

For today’s post, I thought I’d put together a little gift guide for Mother’s Day. I always struggle to know what to get my mom on this day. I love and appreciate her so much, but it can be hard to find a gift that accurately portrays that. You know what I mean? I found a few things this year from small businesses that I’m excited about, so I wanted to share if you have the same struggle as me! Hopefully one of these fun gifts will show your mom how much she means to you. 🙂 (And if you’re one of my moms, don’t be surprised if you get something from this list, haha!)

  1. Gorgeous Custom Birthstone Necklace

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I think these necklaces are so, so pretty, trendy, and have a great meaning to them that moms seem to love. They are custom made, which makes them seem extra thoughtful! I love that it’s basic enough to be worn every day, but unique enough to get many compliments to make your mom feel special. 🙂

2. Natural Bath Bombs

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There is something SO relaxing about having time to grab a good book, fill up the tub with warm water, light a candle, and have some time to relax by yourself. Adding a natural, essential oil bath bomb to the mix is sure to make any mom’s day! And aren’t they gorgeous?!

3. Natural Shower Steamers

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I had never seen these before, but they could be the perfect gift for the mom who isn’t a big bath person, but still loves to take a few moments to relax and rewind. I mean, who wouldn’t want your shower to smell amazing?!

4. Sparkly Green Earrings by Melanie Shankle

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If your mom loves to read then she’s bound to love this book. Melanie is one of my favorite bloggers because she’s hilarious and real, and this book is about motherhood and her time with her daughter. It may just bring a tear to your mom’s eye as she reminisces about your younger years!

5. Workout Tank from Cross Training Couture 

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If your mom loves to be active or loves a good tank for the summer, check out this site! They have incredibly comfortable and cute tanks that contain beautiful messages. This brand is definitely one of my favorites!

6. Messy Beautiful Friendship by Christine Hoover

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I haven’t read this book yet, but I really want to get my hands on it! As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned that deep, lasting friendships can be hard to make and keep. I think this would be a great read for any woman and maybe a book that will speak to your mom’s heart.

7. Dear Mushka,logo

This is a new-to-me site full of beautiful jewelry, clothing, and art prints. I love so many things from it that I couldn’t choose just one picture to share! Each product has a matching Bible verse, making it intentional and extra beautiful. This would be great for the mom who loves Scripture and loves being reminded of it throughout the day.

 

I hope this list is helpful! What are YOU planning to get your mom this year?! Have a beautiful weekend!

In the Word, Lifestyle

You’re Not on the Struggle Bus Alone

One of my favorite things about community is that God allows  us to be transparent with one another. If you’ve been blessed with a community that allows you to share real life, you know what a treasure you have.

It takes time to build trust in order to be transparent, amen? As we all know, showing who we really are and the real things we’re going through isn’t easy. So how do we get over this hurdle? How do we open up to people who may judge us or see us differently?

From my experience, something magical happens when one woman decides to share deep. She shares that she isn’t perfect, she doesn’t have it all together… she has struggles and sin and brokenness. Once one woman does that, the rest of the group has freedom to do the same.

It’s a hard place to get to, but it’s freeing and biblical and beautiful.

So, today I want to share some of my struggle because I don’t want you to feel alone. I don’t want you to think you’re the only woman out there who feels like you’re not holding it all together in a Pinterest-worthy way.

Well, here we go.

Last night, I had a mini-breakdown and cried in my husband’s arms for reasons that I couldn’t quite communicate.

I believe Satan’s attacks are so real, and he loves to attack me through my thoughts. I’ve been riding the struggle bus when it comes to balancing all of the wonderful things God has put before me… marriage, church planting, health, blogging, work… and I came to a point yesterday where I felt broken and guilty for struggling in the midst of God’s goodness and faithfulness to us.

Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever felt so thankful for God’s great goodness, but also broken because you can’t handle it all perfectly?

This has described me to the T lately. I’ve been battling with the enemy. I’ve been struggling with sin. I’ve let myself wallow in guilt and shame mentally, while physically trying to look like I’ve got it all together.

As I cried last night, unable to explain what was going on, Brady picked up a Bible from the coffee table and started reading me Truth. (I thank God for this man all the time!) After that, he brought us to the Lord’s feet, prayed for me, and prayed that the enemy would back off.

It was the perfect reminder that I needed. When I’m feeling broken, I HAVE to turn to Jesus. There is no other option.

We are not promised that life is going to be easy. In fact, Jesus tells us that it’s going to be hard. But in the midst of the hard, we have the Creator of the universe to turn to for peace.

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world. John 16:33

Friend, if you are on the struggle bus with me, I encourage you to turn to Jesus. Open your eyes and mind to Truth so that the lies flowing around in your head become more obvious. Talk to the Lord. Bow down at His feet and cast your burdens on Him. Cry with a friend. Let it all out, and let those who love you walk with you on this journey.

When I opened up my Bible this morning it flipped to the exact Scripture my heart needed:

Purify me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;

wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.

Let me hear joy and gladness;

let the bones that you have broken rejoice.

Hide your face from my sins,

and blot out all my iniquities.

Create in me a clean heart, O God,

and renew a right Spirit within me.

Cast me not away from your presence,

and take not your Holy Spirit from me.

Restore to me the joy of your salvation,

and uphold me with a willing spirit.

Psalm 51:9-12

The Lord cares for us deeply and hates to watch us struggle. And guess what? One day, the struggle bus won’t exist anymore. HECK YES!

Lord, we praise you for your goodness, no matter what our circumstances are. You are always good, and you are always taking care of us. Please restore to us the joy of your salvation, and uphold us with a willing spirit. Use us to bring glory to your name, even when we feel broken. In your perfect name I pray.

Friday Faves, Lifestyle

Friday Faves Part 6

Happy FriYAY friends! I hope you all had wonderful weeks and are ready for a nice, somewhat relaxing weekend. Our weekend will be a little different than normal because Brady is going out of town today. It will be my first night at home without him, which I’m not super excited about, but I will try to make the most of it with a chick flick and face mask or something, haha.

Anyways, I haven’t done a Friday Faves post for far too long! Here are a few things that have been making me feel extra blessed and joyful lately. Feel free to play along and share your faves in the comments below! 🙂

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1. Experimenting with Watercolor

Guys, I am not an artist. But I love being creative and trying new things! I bought some watercolor tools with my monthly spending money (Dave Ramsey budget going on over here) and I’d love to grow some skills! I’ve already learned that it’s harder than it looks, but everything gets better with some practice. We will see how it goes!

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2. Youth Horizons’ Sun Run

I have become a mentor through Youth Horizons here in Wichita and have loved the opportunity to get to know this sweet girl, Emma! We got to participate in their yearly Sun Run and had an awesome time! If you’re interested in mentoring, please give me a shout and I’d love to give you more info!

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3. Spring in Kansas

In between the rain showers, Kansas has been absolutely beautiful lately! I was out on a run the other day and just had to stop and take in this view. I used to find Kansas to be ugly and boring (hello teenage years), but I’ve grown to appreciate the fields and blue skies!

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4. 1st Annual District Church Easter Egg Hunt

So clearly this was a couple of weeks back, but we had our first community wide event for the area of Delano and it was amazing! We had no clue what to expect, but ended up having a couple hundred people show up to find Easter eggs and to enter some raffle drawings. We hid 1,000 eggs and they were literally all found within 3 minutes, haha! We absolutely loved getting to meet some of the people in our community and left feeling encouraged and blessed by the new faces and by the servants who helped out from our launch team. God was so sweet to us through this event!

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5. New Podcasts!

I love listening to podcasts when I’m driving, working out, cooking, doing dishes, etc. So finding new podcasts is always a win! These have been my two newest favorites and I highly recommend them! Jenna Kutcher on the Goal Digger Podcast is sweet and sassy and you feel like she’s your new best friend. She has awesome business advice for entrepreneurs, loves Jesus, and is so fun to listen to! Jamie Ivey interviews various women on The Happy Hour who have awesome stories of faith to share. You feel like you’re sitting down with a couple of friends, coffee in hand, talking about life. It’s great!

 

Ok, now it’s your turn! Please share something that has left you feeling blessed lately in the comments below. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!